How Can I Forgive You?
The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To
By Janis A. Spring
(William Morrow Paperbacks, Paperback, 9780060009311, 272pp.)
Publication Date: January 13, 2005
Other Editions of This Title: Google eBook
Categories: General, Personal Growth - Happiness, Psychotherapy - Couples & Family
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Until now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Spring, a gifted therapist and the award-winning author of After the Affair, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives—without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness—one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us.
This bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and with ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these:
- How do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead?
- When is forgiveness cheap?
- What is wrong with refusing to forgive?
- How can the offender earn forgiveness?
- How do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?
Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., is a nationally acclaimed expert on issues of trust, intimacy, and forgiveness. After the Affair has sold more than 325,000 copies. She is also author of How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, The Freedom Not To. Her private practice in Westport, Connecticut, deals largely with couples who are confronting infidelity issues—making her one of the only therapists in the country with this specialty.
“This book is a treasure trove for anyone who has ever felt betrayed or hurt by a personal relationship.”
-Peggy Papp, author of Couples on the Fault Line: New Directions for Therapists
“A truly stellar book putting forgiveness in a new, revealing light and provides clear steps to turn wounds into wisdom.”
-Joan Borysenko, Ph.D., author of Minding the Body, Mending the Mind
“Clear, insightful…a thoughtful exposition on the nuanced role of forgiveness in relationships that goes beyond the average self-help book.”
-Publishers Weekly
“Spring really shines.... Armed with her insights, offenders and those they’ve offended have hope of recovery.”
-Bellingham Herald
“A fresh and original approach to an ancient challenge.”
-Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want
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