Why You're Not Married . . . Yet
The Straight Talk You Need to Get the Relationship You Deserve
By Tracy Mcmillan
(Ballantine Books, Hardcover, 9780345532923, 224pp.)
Publication Date: May 29, 2012
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If you’re looking to get married and you’re not, there’s most likely a very good reason: you. Not that you’re a bad person—you’re certainly not! It’s just that you haven’t yet become the woman you need to be in order to have the partnership you want. So how you can grow into someone who is ready to say “I do” and to attract the same in a mate?
You start with this book.
Based on her wildly popular Huffington Post article—one of the site’s most-viewed of all time—Why You’re Not Married . . . Yet dishes out straightforward, no-holds-barred practical and proven advice for women hoping to head down the aisle or just have a great relationship. With sisterly insight, razor-sharp wit, and refreshing candor, McMillan points out the things that might be in your blind spot: unhelpful attitudes, behaviors, and beliefs so easy to identify in others, much more difficult to see in yourself. Then she shows you how to adjust them to get the relationship you deserve. Like a no-nonsense but loving best friend, McMillan meets you right where you are to help you get where you’re going—with clarity and honesty. And she’ll make you laugh out loud along the way. More than just a relationship manual, Why You’re Not Married . . . Yet will help you diagnose what’s preventing you from getting what you want. Do any of these chapter headings sound familiar?
• You’re a Bitch: How defensiveness and anger can hide behind a tough, take-charge exterior, and why being nice is never a sign of weakness.
• You’re a Liar: How to stop lying to men—and get honest with yourself—about the kind of relationship you really want. It’s the only way.
• You’re Shallow: Being a woman who insists on a tall guy is no different from being a man who demands big boobs. Learn why you should let go of trying to get what you think you should have and focus on getting what you need.
• You’re Selfish: The big secret about marriage: It’s about giving something, not getting it. The other big secret: You will have to go first.
Why You’re Not Married . . . Yet isn’t so much about getting a husband as it is about shifting your perspective on being a wife. Here’s a funny, insightful guide to becoming a more loving woman and creating a more loving marriage—even if you’re already partnered. It’s a book that will change your life and the way you think about relationships, and it may very well lead you down the aisle.
Tracy McMillan is a television writer whose credits include Mad Men, United States of Tara, Life on Mars, and Necessary Roughness. She’s the author of a memoir, I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway. She lives in Los Angeles and is the mother of a fifteen-year-old son.
“Very wise . . . Give this book to every single girlfriend [you] have.”—Marie Claire
“Hilariously irreverant . . . a shrewd guide to relationships.”—Elle
“Turns the stereotype of the find-a-man book on its booty.”—Minneapolis Star Tribune
“Why You’re Not Married . . . Yet is funny, smart, and so, so true. Equal parts BFF, boot-camp instructor, and relationship guru, Tracy McMillan will change the way you think about yourself and your relationships. This book is for every woman out there who wants to have a great marriage.”—Ricki Lake
“Tracy McMillan is a hero and visionary. Through her book I realized about myself things people I pay a lot of money have been trying to tell me for years: that I’m a bitch, a slut, a mess, and that I hate myself. She gives solutions on how to heal, grow, and get what you want in life in a funny, inspiring, personal and very rare way. This book is an empowering way to take control of your life and become the person you want to be. So basically, she shows you how to be the opposite of me.”—Actress and comedian Whitney Cummings
“As someone who has been married for twelve years, I love to give advice to my single girlfriends. Now, thanks to having read this book, I’m actually qualified to give it.”—Heather McDonald, regular on Chelsea Lately and bestselling author of You’ll Never Blue Ball in This Town Again