The Last Boys Picked
Helping Boys Who Don't Play Sports Survive Bullies and Boyhood
Publication Date: September 4, 2012
Categories: Parenting - General
Boys who don't play sports are often the targets of bullying, but a boy's worst bully may be the one he can't see: society's expectations about how he should act, how he should relate, and how he should play.
Overlooked by a society that reinforces impossible standards of "masculinity," boys who are uninterested in competitive sports or have non-aggressive personalities are often vilified and bullied for being different as they grow up in the shadow of America's obsession with bigger, faster, richer, and stronger.
Through a fascinating assortment of in-depth interviews, clinical case studies, and examples from popular literature, Dr. Janet Sasson Edgette and Beth Margolis Rupp illustrate how these boys are relegated to a second-class social status simply because they can't make a free throw or because they can spell better than they can run.
Compassionate, empowering, and instructive, The Last Boys Picked will help parents, teachers, coaches, and caregivers identify the social and emotional hurdles that these boys face. It offers specific action steps to help any child build resilience and a healthy self-esteem-and tips for talking to them about their experiences and teaching them to face the schoolyard-and the world-with confidence.
Janet Sasson Edgette has been a practicing clinical psychologist for the last fifteen years, providing services to children, adolescents, adults, couples, and families. She speaks nationally to mental health professionals on adolescent therapy, and has written for several professional publications including Family Therapy Networker.
"The Last Boys Picked is an important and relevant addition to the parenting bookshelf. It offers insightful and practical advice for helping all boys—those who don’t play sports as well as those that do—navigate the sometimes difficult journey of boyhood."
-Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys