No Cheating, No Dying
I Had a Good Marriage. Then I Tried To Make It Better.
By Elizabeth Weil
(Scribner, Hardcover, 9781439168226, 192pp.)
Publication Date: February 7, 2012
Written with charm and wit, No Cheating, No Dying investigates one of the most universal human institutions--marriage. Elizabeth Weil and her husband Dan have two basic ground rules for their marriage: no cheating, no dying. For ten years it’s worked fine, but Elizabeth started to wonder if it could be better.
Elizabeth Weil believes that you don’t get married in a white dress, in front of all your future in-laws and ex-boyfriends but gradually, over time, through all the road rage incidents and pre-colonoscopy enemas, good and bad dinners, and all the small moments you never expected to happen or much less endure. In this book, Weil examines the major universal marriage issues—sex, money, mental health, in-laws, children—through bravely recounting her own hilarious, messy, and sometimes difficult relationship. She seeks out the advice of financial planners, psychoanalysts, therapists, household management consultants, priests, rabbis, and the United States government. Woven into this funny and forthright narrative is Weil's extensive research on marriage and marriage improvement. The result is an illuminating and entertaining read that is a fresh addition to the body of literature about marriage.
Elizabeth Weil is a contributing writer for The New York Times Magazine, a platform she frequently uses to explore the pressing issues in her life. She has also published numerous personal essays in Vogue, Real Simple, Glamour, and other magazines.
“A whip smart and contagiously humorous attempt to address the eternal conundrum of domestic ennui and its discontents.” --Elle
“Witty, honest . . .” -- People
“Weil has a voice that charms, full of wit, intelligence and compassion.” -- O, The Oprah Magazine
“The story of their marriage-improvement journey is both hilarious and insightful.” -- The New York Times Book Review
“Quite wonderful . . . an astonishingly intimate, hilariously self-deprecating, vibrant and thoroughly modern memoir.” -- San Francisco Chronicle
“An engaging, often funny and heartfelt memoir about the not-so-romantic realities that can follow 'I do.'" -- Tampa Bay Times
"What ultimately makes No Cheating, No Dying such a thrilling read is the way Weil fiercely includes the reader in the secret life of her marriage." -- Knoxville MetroPulse
“Weil approaches this creative act with unfaltering self awareness, and this is what makes her pursuit so successful and readable. Indeed, the author’s own surprise at what she finds when rooting around the depths of her union translates to moments of unanticipated beauty on the printed page.” -Booklist
"This is such a smart and rich and insightful book (sometimes painfully funny, other times funnily painful) about what it really takes to keep the turbines of modern marriage going. Reading this memoir, I found myself rooting not only for Liz and Dan, but for all of us -- all married couples who've been humbled by life and stress, but who keep struggling and striving, year after year, to somehow keep it together." --Elizabeth Gilbert
"Part experiment, part memoir — told with candor and grace. . . . " -- New Jersey Star Ledger