You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married)
Looking for Love in the Age of Divorce
By Dana Adam Shapiro
(Scribner, Paperback, 9781451657784, 256pp.)
Publication Date: September 17, 2013
Other Editions of This Title: Hardcover
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It all began as a self-help journey in the purest sense. A serial monogamist for more than two decades, Shapiro wanted to know why the honeymoon phase of his relationships never lasted until the actual honeymoon. Believing that you learn more from failure than from success, he spent the next three years crisscrossing the country with a tape recorder, interviewing hundreds of divorced people, hoping to become so fluent in the errors of Eros that he would be able to avoid them in his own love life‚ÄĒand one day be a better husband.
The result is a timely treasure trove of marital wisdom that is as racy as it is revelatory. Shockingly intimate and profoundly personal, this is a page-turning, voyeuristic investigation of modern love and a practical guide for any couple looking to beat the roulette-wheel odds of actually staying together forever.
Dana Adam Shapiro directed the Academy Award-nominated documentary Murderball and the Independent Spirit Award nominee Monogamy, starring Chris Messina and Rashida Jones. He is the author of The Every Boy, a former senior editor at Spin, and a contributor to The New York Times Magazine. He lives in Venice, California.
‚eoeA wonderful and important piece of thinking and reporting.‚e
--Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Committed: A Love Story and Eat, Pray, Love
"As a couples therapist, I witness daily the unraveling of adult intimacies. †Dana Adam Shapiro's gripping†testimonies of demise and divorce are written with vividness and aplomb‚e"I felt as if he were eavesdropping in my office. †A grand reportage of marriage and its discontents."†
--Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
"A book about divorce written by a man who's never been married should be ridiculous. And yet I gobbled up this odd and touching and delicious book. I read it in a single sitting. And what's more, I learned something new about love and marriage and passion and commitment."
†--Ayelet Waldman, author of Red Hook Road and Love and Other Impossible Pursuits
"After reading Dana Adam Shapiro's fascinating and revealing book, I will never again take my marriage for granted. I would write more, but I have to go buy some scented candles and tidy up the kitchen."†
--A.J. Jacobs, author of Drop Dead Healthy: One Man‚e(TM)s Humble Quest for Bodily Perfection