Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?
Confessions of a Gay Dad
By Dan Bucatinsky
(Touchstone, Paperback, 9781451660739, 256pp.)
Publication Date: June 5, 2012
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In 2005, Dan Bucatinsky and his partner, Don Roos, found themselves in an L.A. delivery room, decked out in disposable scrubs from shower cap to booties, to welcome their adopted baby girl—launching their frantic yet memorable adventures into fatherhood. Two and a half years later, the same birth mother—a heroically generous, pack-a-day teen with a passion for Bridezilla marathons and Mountain Dew—delivered a son into the couple’s arms. In Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight? Bucatinsky moves deftly from sidesplitting stories about where kids put their fingers to the realization that his athletic son might just grow up to be straight and finally to a reflection on losing his own father just as he’s becoming one. Bucatinsky’s soul-baring and honest stories tap into that all-encompassing, and very human, hunger to be a parent—and the life-changing and often ridiculous road to getting there.
Dan Bucatinsky wrote, produced, and starred in the indie romantic comedy All Over the Guy and is currently a co-creator and co-star of the acclaimed web-to-television Showtime series Web Therapy. He continues to act, write, and produce for film and television. He lives in California.
Two gay dads share their good, bad and funny experiences of becoming a parent. As part of LGBT Pride Month, host Michel Martin speaks with Dan Bucatinsky author of the new book Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight? and Marcus Mabry dad of two and editor-at-large for the New York Times. More at NPR.org
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“I was laughing out loud as I read Dan's book of parental (mis)adventures. He's a gifted writer with a hilarious voice and rapier wit. " —Neil Patrick Harris
"Oh my GOD, I LOVE this book. It’s a hilarious account of Dan’s journey through life, love, Hollywood, and fatherhood. It’s brilliant and SO funny.” –Gwyneth Paltrow, Oscar-winning actress and author of My Father's Daughter
"I read Dan's compelling and 'modern' book in almost one sitting and when my face wasn't in my hands laughing myself silly, I was touched and moved by Dan's ability to stay in his heart." —Jane Lynch
"Okay. I know Dan. We’ve worked together for almost ten years. I’ve never seen him naked. But after reading his book, I feel like I’ve seen him without a stitch, no cover, completely bare. I also saw myself in this as a parent and thought “Oh, I’m not alone with my thoughts.” It’s good not to be all alone with these feelings and as is usual for me, Dan is the perfect company to keep."—Lisa Kudrow
“This book will make you laugh, cry, cringe in sympathy, and delight along with Dan, his husband, and his two adorable kids.” –Ayelet Waldman, author of Bad Mother
"This book is unbelievably heartwarming and hysterically funny. Dan Bucatinsky's stories are beautiful, capturing the ways children challenge and teach their parents about living." --Rosie O'Donnell
“In Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight? Dan Bucatinsky captures the joys, terrors, and absurdities of being a gay parent. But this funny, touching book is for all parents—gay or straight” —Dan Savage, author of The Kid
“Few people make me laugh as much as Dan Bucatinsky, but I was not prepared this time to be crying between the guffaws. This is a book I will return to again and again for its humor, that's a no-brainer, but for its sly wisdom as well.” —Terrence McNally, Tony award-winning playwright.
“Loved how Dan bounced from crazy silly to gut wrenching and heartwarming. His humor was the sugar that made the crystal meth of his life go down. I will be a better parent because he went places and made some mistakes so I don't have to. Adoption is so difficult and just being in a relationship is hard enough, but as he made clear in the book, so frickin’ worth it.” —Tom Arnold
"Once I put my kid to bed, this book made me laugh out loud late into the night. The perils of parenting as told by Dan are hilarious and heartbreaking and utterly recognizable to anyone who has a child. Brilliant." –Shonda Rhimes, creator of Grey’s Anatomy