Being Lara (Paperback)

By Lola Jaye

William Morrow & Company, 9780062069344, 320pp.

Publication Date: March 13, 2012



A poignant and provocative story of adoption, self-discovery, and the meaning of family, Being Lara by author Lola Jaye (By the Time You Read This) is an unforgettable tale of three women--British mother, Nigerian birth mother, and 30-year-old daughter--the choices they made, and the fragile bond they try to create across time and continents. Intelligent and touching, Being Lara is exquisite contemporary fiction with heart and soul that will resonate with readers of Cecilia Ahearn, Thrity Umrigar, and Shilpi Gowda.

Conversation Starters from

  1. Why do you think Lara’s first instinct was to run when Yomi first appeared at the party?
  2. Lara and Sandi seem quite different in personality and character.What were the core elements that brought them together?
  3. Lara and Tyler have found one another, but what do you think they can do to ensure their relationship is an everlasting one?
  4. On reflection, Yomi feels she has made mistakes. How do you think Yomi could have done things differently?
  5. Barry has a hard time dealing with Yomi's appearance. What do you think were Barry’s reasons for shielding the devastating truth from Lara?How might he be experiencing this whole process differently than the women in the novel?
  6. Pat is still estranged from her family. Do you think Pat should approach rebuilding her family ties? Why or why not?
  7. Do you think people should be allowed to adopt children of a different race? Why or why not?
  8. What do you think are the advantages of being raised in a cross-racial household? What are the disadvantages?
  9. When it comes to international adoptions, how do you think adoptive parents should handle giving their child information about their culture?