Love and Miss Communication
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This unforgettable debut novel asks us to look up from our screens and out at the world . . . and to imagine what life would be like with no searches, no status updates, no texts, no Tweets, no pins, and no posts
Evie Rosen has had enough. She's tired of the partners at her law firm e-mailing her at all hours of the night. The thought of another online date makes her break out in a cold sweat. She's over the clever hashtags and the endless selfies. So when her career hits a surprising roadblock and her heart is crushed by Facebook, Evie decides it's time to put down her smartphone for good. (Beats stowing it in her underwear—she's done that too!)
And that's when she discovers a fresh start for real conversations, fewer distractions, and living in the moment, even if the moments are heartbreakingly difficult. Babies are born; marriages teeter; friendships are tested. Evie may find love and a new direction when she least expects it, but she also learns that just because you unplug your phone doesn't mean you can also unplug from life.
Praise For Love and Miss Communication: A Novel…
— Cristina Alger, author of The Darlings
“Wholly irresistible—smart and poignant and laugh-out-loud funny.”
— Sara Houghteling, author of Pictures at an Exhibition
“An extremely fun reminder that we can all survive without emoticons. #greatread!”
— Erin Duffy, author of ON THE ROCKS and BOND GIRL
“Part modern girl-power moxie manual and part cleverly twisted old-fashioned love story, Elyssa Friedland’s sublime debut was a delight to devour.”
— Jill Kargman, author of The Rockstar in Seat 3A and star of Bravo's Odd Mom Out
“A delicious and timely novel. Friedland takes a look at how our addiction to social media brings us together while keeping us apart.”
— Molly Jong-Fast, author of The Social Climber's Handbook
“Funny, fast-paced, charming, and totally relatable, Friedland gives us a brilliant love story and reminds us it’s nice to pick up a smart book instead of a smartphone for a change.”
— Jennifer Belle, bestselling author of High Maintenance and The Seven Year Bitch
“a funny and fresh take on working and dating in the age of social media. Readers will root for the flawed but lovable Evie Rosen as she fights to separate who she is from how she appears online.”
— Susan Gloss, author of Vintage
“Love and Miss Communication is a cut above standard chick lit fare. [...] it’s a smart, funny and sweetly old-fashioned love story.”
“Friedland’s Love and Miss Communication challenges our mind-set with a thought-provoking what if. And Evie’s story promises an enjoyable experience with a happy ever after.”
— USAToday.com Happy Ever After Blog
William Morrow Paperbacks, 9780062379849, 400pp.
Publication Date: May 12, 2015
About the Author
Elyssa Friedland attended Yale University, where she served as managing editor of the Yale Daily News. She is a graduate of Columbia Law School and subsequently worked as an associate at a major firm. Prior to law school, Elyssa wrote for several publications, including Modern Bride, New York magazine, Columbia Journalism Review, CBS MarketWatch.com, Yale Alumni Magazine, and Your Prom. She grew up in New Jersey and currently lives in New York City with her husband and three young children.
Conversation Starters from ReadingGroupChoices.com
How do you feel about Evie’s dismissal from Baker & Smith? Do you think it was justified?
How much time do you spend on personal matters during the workday? What do you consider
Evie’s previous boyfriend, Jack, says he doesn’t believe in marriage, yet she pursues a
relationship with him and continues to pine after him long after they break up. Why do we
always want what we can’t have?
Have you ever been tempted to quit the Internet, or at least quit social media? Evie says she
knows that what she sees online is not reality, yet it still upsets her. Do you have similar
negative reactions to social media?
Evie yearns for Bette’s approval in her life. Do you think she shares Bette’s traditional
worldview more than she’d like to admit? Does this shape the choices she makes?
Before going on dates with men, Evie uses Google to her advantage. Do you think she
should have regrets about her former dating habits, or is it a safe rule of thumb to know your
date? Do you believe Evie and Edward would have gotten together if she had, in fact, Googled
What are the top three dating tips that you would share with Evie from your own personal
Evie struggles with being the only single one in her group of close friends. Do you think she
handles it well? Do you think it’s possible for friends to be close when their situations in life are
There is a recurring theme of jealousy and self-absorption throughout the novel. Are there
any times that you may have let jealousy, especially fueled by social stalking, get the better of
you? Discuss the ways Evie may or may not have evolved by the end of the book.
Fran is the ultimate mother— supportive, loving, and not judgmental. Yet Evie seems closer
to Bette. Why do you think that is?
In marrying Edward, Evie will become a stepmother to Olivia. Do you think she is ready for
What do you think about the Steve Jobs quote at the beginning of the novel? Is technology
Do you think Evie was particularly addicted to technology, or is that the way most people
are “wired” these days?
Aunt Susan tells Evie that life is better with complication, and Evie dismisses the comment.
Do you agree more with Susan or with Evie?
Do you believe Evie could have had a happily ever after with either Jack or Edward? Or is
there only one right person for her?