Make Me a Mother (Hardcover)
W. W. Norton & Company, 9780393068177, 256pp.
Publication Date: February 17, 2014
A woman unexpectedly finds her best self through a sleepy bundle handed over at the airport in this heartfelt and surprising memoir.
In Make Me a Mother, acclaimed memoirist Susanne Antonetta adopts an infant from Seoul, South Korea. After meeting their six-month-old son, Jin, at the airport—an incident made memorable when Susanne, so eager to meet her son, is chased down by security—Susanne and her husband learn lessons common to all parents, such as the lack of sleep and the worry and joy of loving a child. They also learn lessons particular to their own family: not just how another being can take over your life but how to let an entire culture in, how to discuss birth parents who gave up a child, and the tricky steps required to navigate race in America.
In the end, her relationship with her son teaches Susanne to understand her own troubled childhood and to forgive and care for her own aging parents. Susanne comes to realize how, time and time again, all families have to learn to adopt one another.
About the Author
Praise For Make Me a Mother: A Memoir…
— Ann Hood, author of The Obituary Writer
Reflecting on her troubled childhood, aging parents, and Korean-born son’s complex sense of his own origins, Antonetta wrestles with the vexing conundrum of human connection. Call it adoption, call it something else. This book ‘gives a shape to what love is.’
— Ralph James Savarese, author of Reasonable People: A Memoir of Autism and Adoption
An award-winning memoirist’s moving account of how adopting a South Korean baby taught her about motherhood and love.