Do I Get My Allowance Before or After I'm Grounded?: Stop Fighting, Start Talking, and Get to Know Your Teen (Paperback)

Stop Fighting, Start Talking, and Get to Know Your Teen

By Vanessa Van Petten

Plume Books, 9780452297418, 304pp.

Publication Date: August 30, 2011



Vanessa Petten bridges the communication gap between teens and parents.

Every parent fears "losing" their child. But in this revolutionary book, youthologist Vanessa Van Petten translates what parents want to say into what teens want to hear.

At 16, Vanessa Van Petten started her award-winning website,, in reaction to sudden friction with her parents. Today, Vanessa and more than one hundred teen contributors help thousands of parents build and maintain healthy, strong, mutually fulfilling relationships with their teenage children-by providing prescriptive advice straight from the source.

From classic fights like dating and chores to 21st Century issues such as sexting and cyberbullying, this comprehensive book provides step-by-step guidance on every worry, including:

  • Lying
  • Peer Pressure
  • Social Networking
  • Sex
  • School
  • Drugs

    It's never too late to reconnect. Vanessa Van Petten helps you learn what's really going on in your child's life, and most importantly- understand when to put your foot down and when to let go.

About the Author

VANESSA VAN PETTENhas been writing and speaking about teen issues since she was sixteen. She founded RadicalParenting.comand is aCNN columnist, as well as winner of the Mom s Choice Award. She travels the country speaking to all types of groups about family relationships, teen lifestyles, advertising to Net-Generation and many other issues pertaining to Gen Y.She lives in Los Angeles."