The Mating Game (Paperback)

How Gender Still Shapes How We Date

By Ellen Lamont

University of California Press, 9780520298699, 248pp.

Publication Date: February 18, 2020

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Despite enormous changes in patterns of dating and courtship in twenty-first-century America, contemporary understandings of romance and intimacy remain firmly rooted in age-old assumptions of gender difference. These tenacious beliefs now vie with cultural messages of gender equality that stress independence, self-development, and egalitarian practices in public and private life.

Through interviews with heterosexual and LGBTQ individuals, Ellen Lamont’s The Mating Game explores how people with diverse sexualities and gender identities date, form romantic relationships, and make decisions about future commitments as they negotiate uncertain terrain fraught with competing messages about gender, sexuality, and intimacy.

About the Author

 Ellen Lamont is Assistant Professor of Sociology at Appalachian State University.