Sufi Talks: Teachings of an American Sufi Sheikh (Paperback)
Teachings of an American Sufi Sheikh
Quest Books (IL), 9780835608930, 293pp.
Publication Date: June 26, 2012
Once a woman brought her son to the thirteenth-century Turkish Sufi master Nasruddin complaining that the boy had an uncontrollable sweet tooth. She asked Nasruddin to tell the boy to stop eating sweets. He said to bring him back in four weeks. When they returned he said, "Boy, I order you to stop eating sweets " The mother asked, "Couldn't you have said that at the beginning? Why make us wait four weeks?" "No, I couldn't have said that even two weeks ago," Nasruddin replied. "Why not?" asked the mother. "Because I love sweets myself. First I had to control my own love for them. Only then could I tell your son to stop eating them."
That is, words are empty unless backed by experience, says Robert Frager. People will not change until they hear from those who have lived what they teach. Frager has indeed lived his teaching. Founder of the Institute for Transpersonal Psychology in 1975, in 1976 he became a student of the Sufi master Muzaffer Efendi. Since becoming a sheikh in 1985, he has given many sohbets-a Turkish word for the spiritual conversations Sufi teachers hold to inspire their students. The sohbets he presents here are compiled from his talks over the past decade and represent Sufism as it is now practiced in the United States.
Frager believes that the wisdom in such talks flows through the sheikh from his teacher and his teacher's teacher all the way back to the Prophet Mohammad and God; the sheikh is merely a channel for something greater than any individual. Moreover, these talks are not lectures but rather living connections going both ways between heart and heart. Indeed, the warm, personal immediacy to Frager's voice is rarely found. Like the tales of Nasruddin, he teaches through colorful anecdote and metaphors. Sufi practice has two sides, he says: one is to develop our love of God; the other is to become less self-centered. We need both, just as a bird needs both wings to fly.
"How can I put my knowledge into practice?" is the question we must ask. As the Qur'an states, those who fail to live by their understanding are like donkeys carrying a load of books. The books won't change them. They can carry the holiest books but will still be donkeys.
Among the practices Frager teaches are zikr, or remembrance of God through chanting; halvet, or spiritual retreat; and adab, or "right action." Thus do we develop character-or, rather, restore the character we had at birth. "I've never seen a baby with a bad character," he says. "We are all born in a pure state. With hard work and God's blessings we can return to it." Other topics include Obstacles on the Path, Reducing Narcissism, Inner Work, Prayer, Marriage, Generosity, Taking Responsibility, and Waking before We Die.
No matter what one's religion, the reader will find such universal wisdom in this book that he will agree with Frager's teacher Muzaffer Efendi who once advised, "You can tell these stories ten thousand times and people will still benefit from them.
About the Author
Before founding the Institute, Frager taught psychology and religious studies for seven years at University of California Berkeley and University of California Santa Cruz. In 1985, Frager was ordained as a sheikh, or spiritual guide, in the Sufi mystical tradition. He is now the president of the Jerrahi Order of California and has been a Sufi spiritual guide for over 25 years.
Frager has written three books on Sufism: "Essential Sufism," "Love is the Wine: Teachings of a Sufi Master in America" and "Heart, Self, and Soul: The Sufi Psychology of Growth, Balance, and Harmony." He is the editor of "Sharing Sacred Stories: Current Approaches to Spiritual Direction and Guidance."
A personal student of the founder of Aikido, Frager trained in the art in Japan and holds a 7th degree black belt--the highest honor ever awarded to a westerner. He has been an instructor in Aikido for over 45 years.
Frager is also a transpersonal psychologist, consultant, and educator. He currently resides in Northern California.
Praise For Sufi Talks: Teachings of an American Sufi Sheikh…
"Like a river of paradise, Sheikh Ragip Frager's discourses are clear, pure, and delicious to the soul."
— Pir Zia Inayat-Khan
“A wise, discerning and practical book by a man who has walked the talk. I learned a lot from Sufi Talks.
— Huston Smith, author of The World’s Religions and Why Religion Matters and Distinguished Adjunct Professor of Philosophy, Emeritus, Syracuse University
"A generous river of a book, flowing with many stories about the great Sufi Sheikh Muzaffer, a bookseller in Istanbul. Something in me gets very happy when I hear stories that Muzaffer told, or accounts of what he did and said in his dervish community."
— Coleman Barks, author of Rumi: The Big Red Book