Resisting Elegy (Hardcover)
On Grief and Recovery
Chicago Review Press, 9780897336253, 144pp.
Publication Date: April 3, 2012
About the Author
Praise For Resisting Elegy: On Grief and Recovery…
"...Peckham's stories reflect honestly, and often shockingly, on [his] troubled marriage, their cultural differences, and Peckham's rejection of the outside world's expectations for his grief and recovery. Nevertheless, these essays also affirm the love that once existed, and they show a man who "has to be knocked silly" to discover the truth about himself.
"Don't tell me how to grieve,"[Peckham] writes back bitterly to a friend who berates him for not visiting his wife's and son's graves oceans away. He can't match what he thinks or feels with what he should think or feel. Other people's stories can only be true if he, too, can be true to them. Thus he must create a new story as truthful as possible.
In the end, death does not wipe out the alienation felt in a marriage dissolving; instead, it retains the love once shared. What remain are regrets, the "sources of real grief and real pain," but with them comes, first dimly, then ever more clearly, the acceptance of a life that is able to let go, piece by piece, what once was..."
- Heidemarie Weidner, Editor, Under the Sun