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We Used to Be Friends

Amy Spalding

Hardcover

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Praise For We Used to Be Friends

“Amy Spalding knows that best friendships are love stories, and this one is complex, earnest, and unflinching. A must-read for anyone who's ever had or lost a friend.”

— Becky Albertalli, New York Times bestselling author of Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda

We Used to Be Friends chronicles the end of a friendship with a bittersweet authenticity balanced by Amy Spalding's trademark humor. This book will break your heart only like a best friend can.”

— Maurene Goo, author of Somewhere Only We Know

“Amy Spalding spins a story of friendship, family, love, and longing as perfect and bittersweet as the last days of summer.”

— Rebecca Podos, Lambda Literary Award-winning author of Like Water

"In alternating first-person perspectives, James and Kat each tell their stories, and despite their flaws, both become deeply sympathetic characters throughthe course of their narratives. . . The nonlinear structure adds some suspense to what is otherwise a bittersweet and potent examination of friendship, its failings, and its worth."

— Booklist

"A good exploration of the heartbreak of losing a friend—and learning about oneself in the process."

— Kirkus Reviews

"The author effectively conveys the ways that a desire for perfection can keep people at arm’s length, how not telling people things makes it harder to tell them later, and how silence can come to feel like a lie... Spalding shows with sensitivity how the pain of losing a close friend can seep into everything."

— Publishers Weekly

"Teens hurting from any breakup can find some solace here; while the book makes clear that sometimes splitting up is inevitable, it holds out hope that time apart and open conversations can bring people back together."  

— Bulletin of the Center for Children's Books

"A captivating snapshot of a friendship that many teens will relate to. Spalding explores important questions while lyrically weaving the two stories together."

— School Library Journal

Harry N. Abrams, 9781419738661, 384pp.

Publication Date: January 7, 2020



About the Author

Amy Spalding is the author of several novels for teens, including Kissing Ted Callahan (and Other Guys) and The Summer of Jordi Perez (and the Best Burger in Los Angeles), which earned a starred review from Kirkus. She lives in Los Angeles.