The Unmade Bed (Paperback)
The Messy Truth about Men and Women in the 21st Century
Simon & Schuster, 9781476780160, 256pp.
Publication Date: March 27, 2018
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One morning in New York City, Stephen Marche, then a new father and tenure-track professor, got the call: his wife had been offered her dream job…in Canada. Their decision to prioritize her career over his and move to Toronto sheds new light on the gender roles in their marriage (and in the world around them). As Marche provocatively argues, we are no longer engaged in a war of the sexes, but rather stuck together in a labyrinth of contradictions. And that these contradictions are keeping women from power and confounding male identity.
The Unmade Bed is a deeply researched, deeply personal exploration into the moments in everyday life where women and men meet. After all, within offices and homes, on the street, online, and in bed, we constantly ask ourselves: What are we expected to sacrifice? Is it possible to be equal? As he attempts to answer these questions, Marche explores the issues that define our modern conversations on gender, from mansplaining and sexual morality to parenthood and divisions of the domestic sphere. In the process, he discovers that true power remains shockingly elusive for women while the idea of masculinity struggles in a state of uncertainty. The only way out of these mutual struggles is together.
With footnote commentary throughout the book from Marche’s wife, The Unmade Bed is a “compelling” (The Globe and Mail, Toronto), uniquely balanced, and honest approach to the revolution going on in our everyday lives—a thought-provoking work of social science that is sure to be a conversation starter.
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Praise For The Unmade Bed: The Messy Truth about Men and Women in the 21st Century…
“We’re living in a confusing time. Men and women no longer neatly fit into prescribed gender roles, and yet those norms still wield enormous power. As the ground shifts precariously underfoot, Stephen Marche finds a deeply thoughtful, at times hilarious, even footing. Rather than the silly and cartoonish notion of the Battle of the Sexes, Marche argues in The Unmade Bed that we’re all picking our way through a labyrinth. It’s dark. The way unknown. Even a little scary. But Marche’s elegant book makes the case that stumbling toward a more human future, even with the occasional wrong turn, is well worth the effort.” —Brigid Schulte, author of Overwhelmed
“Marche pulls back the covers and shows life, love, and career in all its wonderful jumbled chaos. And while Marche’s story, into which we get a 360-degree view with his real-life partner’s annotations, is personal to him, I was nodding along in agreement and LOL’d at lines like ‘Eat, Pray, Love . . . and Chores.’ It's an important look at the challenges of ‘having it all’ and positions the problem as not uniquely a woman’s issue, but a human one.” —Kirstine Stewart, author of Our Turn
“Stephen Marche is a very brave man: in The Unmade Bed he makes the case that relations between men and women have never been better. Because he is also a very brilliant writer, he pulls it off. A thrilling read, no less because his wife has provided footnotes.” —Ian Brown, author of Sixty