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Getting Relationships Right

How to Build Resilience and Thrive in Life, Love, and Work

Melanie Joy, PhD


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Bestselling author, psychologist, and relationship coach Melanie Joy shares the principles and tools that can make any relationship, from personal to professional, healthier and more resilient.

Relationships are complicated. Yet it's an unfortunate reality that while most of us have to learn complex geometry that we'll probably never use, we don't get a single formal lesson in how to relate to others. In this one-stop guide, psychologist Melanie Joy reveals the common psychological dynamics that underlie all kinds of relationships--with a romantic partner, friends, family members, colleagues--in short, with anyone in any situation. Understanding these dynamics will help you make all your relationships healthier and more resilient.

Relationships are like bodies: they get sick when their immune system is weaker than the germs that stress them. Drawing on the most relevant research as well as on her own extensive experience as a psychologist, Joy explains how to strengthen your relational immune system to resist not only interpersonal stressors but also largely invisible yet potentially devastating societal stressors like racism and sexism. With this understanding, you can cultivate relationships that consistently reflect core moral values and honor the dignity of everyone involved. Resilient relationships are not only a source of joy and fulfillment for those who are in them, they also support the thriving of the organizations and communities of which we all are a part.

Praise For Getting Relationships Right: How to Build Resilience and Thrive in Life, Love, and Work

“The research is in. Nothing is more important than Getting Relationships Right because healthy relationships are a necessity—not a luxury—for happiness, health and longevity. In her book, Dr. Joy shows you how to get relationships right in a clear and comprehensive way and shares the outcomes you can expect from her process. Recommended reading for both individuals and therapists!”
—Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D., Authors of Getting the Love You Want

“Joy offers a wise, practical, and well-researched template for creating healthy relationships of any kind. While reading it I kept thinking, ‘This is like an encyclopedia of relationship wisdom.’ I recommend this book to anyone wishing to expand their social-emotional intelligence!”
—Susan Campbell, Ph.D., Author of Getting Real, Truth in Dating, and Five-Minute Relationship Repair

“Read this book if you want to have healthy, mature relationships. Dr. Joy provides the tools, insight and research to get the job done.”
The Relationship Fix: Dr. Jenn’s 6-Step Guide to Improving Communication, Connection, and Intimacy

“In this brilliant treasure of a book, Melanie Joy expertly and elegantly explains you everything you’ll ever need to know about how to successfully navigate any kind of relationship.”
—Kathy Freston, NY Times bestselling author Quantum Wellness, The Lean, and The One

“Melanie Joy’s book is really speaking my language with integrity, resilience, empathy, compassion, security, authenticity, and connection. Joy nails what it takes to make relationships great. The book is well-written with huge practical value. Getting Relationships Right is a must read!”
—Linda Bloom, Co-author of 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last

Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 9781523088508, 264pp.

Publication Date: February 11, 2020

About the Author

Melanie Joy, PhD, EdM, is a Harvard-educated psychologist specializing in relationships, communication, and social change. She is the award-winning author of four other books, and she is also an international speaker, trainer, and organizational coach. Her work has been featured by media outlets around the world, including the New York Times, BBC, and ABC Australia; and she has been granted a number of international awards. You can learn more about her work at