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And Now We Have Everything (Digital Audiobook)

On Motherhood Before I Was Ready

By Meaghan O'Connell, Meaghan O'Connell (Narrator)

Publication Date: April 9, 2018

Other Editions of This Title:
Paperback (4/16/2019)
Hardcover (4/10/2018)

April 2018 Indie Next List

“Times have changed, women have changed, and, naturally, the experience of young(ish) motherhood has changed as well. I often tell people that becoming a mother was equal parts wonderful and abysmally dark and get blank stares, but here it is: a tale like mine, articulated with clarity and wit! I'm excited to be able to recommend this honest and relatable account of modern pregnancy and motherhood.”
— Cristina Russell, Books & Books, Coral Gables, FL
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Summer 2019 Reading Group Indie Next List

“A fearlessly funny memoir-in-essays that begins by referencing ‘the cultural childishness of the ambitious young woman too smart for her own good’ and makes its way to, ‘What if, instead of worrying about scaring women, we told them the truth?’ As she examines the uneasy and occasionally terrifying experiences of pregnancy, childbirth, and motherhood, O’Connell also interrogates the cultural pressures foisted upon young women and mothers. ‘Be careful what you wish for’ may be the aphorism underlying And Now We Have Everything, but at the heart of O’Connell’s book is a raw, daring, powerful love for her partner, for their child, for other uncertain young women on the precipice of motherhood, and for herself.”
— Daley Farr, Milkweed Books, Minneapolis, MN
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A raw, funny, and fiercely honest account of becoming a mother before feeling like a grown up.

When Meaghan O'Connell got accidentally pregnant in her twenties and decided to keep the baby, she realized that the book she needed -- a brutally honest, agenda-free reckoning with the emotional and existential impact of motherhood -- didn't exist. So she decided to write it herself.

And Now We Have Everything is O'Connell's exploration of the cataclysmic, impossible-to-prepare-for experience of becoming a mother. With her dark humor and hair-trigger B.S. detector, O'Connell addresses the pervasive imposter syndrome that comes with unplanned pregnancy, the fantasies of a "natural" birth experience that erode maternal self-esteem, post-partum body and sex issues, and the fascinating strangeness of stepping into a new, not-yet-comfortable identity.

Channeling fears and anxieties that are still taboo and often unspoken, And Now We Have Everything is an unflinchingly frank, funny, and visceral motherhood story for our times, about having a baby and staying, for better or worse, exactly yourself.

Smart, funny, and true in all the best ways, this book made me ache with recognition." -- Cheryl Strayed