Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child (Paperback)

Practical Tips and Tools to Heal Your Relationship

By Tina Gilbertson

New World Library, 9781608686582, 272pp.

Publication Date: April 28, 2020

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Parents whose adult children have cut off contact wonder: How did this happen? Where did I go wrong? What happened to my loving child? Over time, holidays, birthdays, and even the birth of grandchildren may pass in silence. Anguish may turn into anger. While time, in and of itself, does not necessarily heal, actions do, and while every estrangement includes situation-specific variables, there are practical, effective, and universal techniques for understanding and healing these not-uncommon breaches. Tina Gilbertson has developed these techniques and tools over years of face-to-face and online work with parents who have found her strategies transformative and even life changing. Gilbertson cuts through the blame, shame, and guilt on both sides of the broken relationship. Parents will feel heard and understood but also challenged -- and guided -- to reclaim their role as "tone setter" and grow psychologically. Exercises, examples, and even sample scripts empower parents who have felt powerless. Gilbertson shows that reconciliation is a step-by-step process, but the effort is well worth it. It is never too late to renew relations and experience better-than-ever bonds.

About the Author

Tina Gilbertson, MA, is a licensed professional counselor and board-certified Telemental Health Provider specializing in family estrangement. She maintains a blog on and has been quoted in hundreds of media outlets, including Fast Company, Forbes, the Chicago Tribune, the Washington Post, and Real Simple. She lives and practices in Denver.