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You Are Not What You Think

The Egoless Path to Self-Esteem and Generous Love

David Richo


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You and your ego: how to develop strong self-confidence without becoming an egotist—so you can be happy with who you are and make others love you too

How can you build the healthy ego necessary to be effective in life—yet avoid the kind of egotism that makes people dislike you? Don’t worry; Dave Richo has the answers. You Are Not What You Think shows you how to navigate the tricky waters between egotism and selflessness in a way that avoids both extremes and makes you much more effective and loving. The key is to acknowledge your ego and to be kind to it, before you ultimately learn to let it go.
As with all Dave’s books, this one is full of examples from mythology, psychology, and religion, with plenty of exercises and practical advice.

Praise For You Are Not What You Think: The Egoless Path to Self-Esteem and Generous Love

“This well-written, easy-to-read book will give a wealth of practical advice on how to unhook and disentangle yourself from the myriad unhelpful thoughts, beliefs, self-judgments, and self-concepts that we often refer to as ‘ego.’  If you want a healthier, happier, more compassionate relationship with yourself, this book is for you.”—Russ Harris, author of The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living

“David Richo uses concepts from neuroscience, psychology, and Buddhism to show us how to make a friend of our ego, that oddly obstreperous, often tyrannical — but ultimately useful — chimera.” --Norman Fischer, author of Experience: on Thinking, Writing, Language and Religion, and What is Zen? Plain Talk for a Beginner’s Mind

Shambhala, 9781611802856, 192pp.

Publication Date: December 29, 2015

About the Author

David Richo, PhD, is a psychotherapist, teacher, writer, and workshop leader whose work emphasizes the benefits of mindfulness and loving-kindness in personal growth and emotional well-being. He is the author of numerous books, including How to Be an Adult in Relationships and The Five Things We Cannot Change. He lives in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, California.