A Tender Struggle: Story of a Marriage (Paperback)

Story of a Marriage

By Krista Bremer

Algonquin Books, 9781616204495, 304pp.

Publication Date: March 31, 2015

May 2014 Indie Next List

“Bremer's marriage memoir opened my eyes to a culture I previously didn't know much about. Great books invite us in, give us an education without our realizing we are learning something, and change us with each page. That's what this account did for me. Bremer's marriage to a Libyan Muslim crosses cultural boundaries, and hardships and heartbreaks abound -- but there are blessings and happiness too. I'll be recommending this one!”
— Annie Jones, The Bookshelf, Thomasville, GA
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"A story about love, marriage, compromise, parenthood and the difference between the life one imagined and reality."*

Fifteen years ago, Krista Bremer, a California-bred feminist, surfer, and aspiring journalist, met Ismail Suayah, sincere, passionate, kind, yet from a very different world. One of eight siblings born in an impoverished fishing village in Libya, Ismail was raised a Muslim--and his faith informed his life. When Krista and Ismail made the decision to become a family, she embarked on a journey she never could have imagined, an accidental jihad: a quest for spiritual and intellectual growth that would open her mind and, more important, her heart.

"A bold piece of writing (and thinking) by an incredibly brave woman." --Elizabeth Gilbert, author of The Signature of All Things

"A moving, lyrical memoir."--Kirkus Reviews

"Candid and rich." --Good Housekeeping

"Unrelenting candor and gorgeous prose." --BookPage

"Krista Bremer has a very good story." --The New York Times Book Review

"A beautiful account of Krista's] jihad, or struggle, to find peace within herself and within her marriage." --The Kansas City Star

"Lucid, heartfelt, and profoundly humane . . . Navigates the boundaries of religion and politics to arrive at the universal experience of love." --G. Willow Wilson, author of Alif the Unseen

"This is a memoir worth reading." --*Pittsburgh Post-Gazette


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