The Blind Spot Effect (Paperback)
How to Stop Missing What's Right in Front of You
Sounds True, 9781622039975, 208pp.
Publication Date: July 1, 2018
Do you ever feel like you're experiencing your life at only a fraction of its true clarity and depth?
Are your days dominated by a single emotion such as fear, sadness, anger, or disappointment?
At work or in your personal life, do you find yourself facing similar relationship patterns or conflicts again and again?
From our earliest years, we all acquire blind spots in the way we perceive, feel, and think. Driven by our biology, life experiences, cultural messages, and physical environment, they profoundly affect us throughout our lives.
This informative and practical guide invites us to understand: how we get them, how to bring them to light, and how to work with that newfound awareness to improve our lives.
Here, author Kelly Boys presents emerging research from many fields of psychology and neuroscience, personal stories, and a wealth of hands-on exercises and practices to help us identify, welcome, and transform our own hidden domains.
Join her to explore:
What we miss and how we miss it
• Attentional blink—gaps in our sensory awareness and our astonishing potential to perceive more in each moment
• Decoding your unconscious stories—how they filter the truth and influence you
• Hacking your intuition—why our gut instincts are not always accurate, and ways to get it right more often
• The defended self—uncovering the core beliefs that shape your emotional landscape
• Using moments of crisis to reveal especially elusive blind spots
• Falling in love, "crushing," cheating, and wholehearted loving—shining a light into the wilderness of intimate relationships
• Three biases that sabotage our judgment and how to counter them
• Self-compassion, welcoming, and vulnerability—keys to clearer self-perception
• Flow states—becoming fully immersed in what you do without the filters that diminish your natural way of perceiving and being
• Seeing yourself as others see you—safely engaging with someone you trust to gain greater self-awareness
• Illuminating the biggest blind spot of all—the illusion of an isolated and separate self, and how to free ourselves from the traps it creates
• Chapter-by-chapter practices—somatic, contemplative, and mindfulness-based—for self-discovery and change
Once we recognize our blind spots, we can't unsee them. We release ourselves from unnecessary suffering and begin to experience each moment more richly. With The Blind Spot Effect, you're invited to illuminate what is right in front of you and within you—for greater wonder, joy, and fulfillment.
About the Author
Praise For The Blind Spot Effect: How to Stop Missing What's Right in Front of You…
“This worthwhile debut from Boys, who helped launch Google’s "Search Inside Yourself" mindfulness program, lays out a self-help plan designed to address the personal "blind spots" that distort people’s thinking...[THE BLIND SPOT EFFECT] is persuasive, and readers will appreciate the series of meditation practices provided.” —Publishers Weekly
“Kelly Boys explores powerful new science about the important things we miss each day—and the simple, practical things we can do to see the good news about ourselves and the world that’s right under our noses. In an informal and friendly style, she helps us see the unseen, shed needless stress and worries, and open into something quite profound.” —Rick Hanson, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of Buddha’s Brain and Resilient
“The Blind Spot Effect is a fresh and illuminating take on how to step out of lifelong patterns that keep snagging us . . . highly recommended!” —Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge
“We all have blind spots, and this book expertly reveals how mindfulness and emotional intelligence training can help us see clearly and stop the mental and emotional suffering we create in our own lives. When we start within, we can make peace in the world. This book is an essential starting point for discovering that peace within ourselves, which is bound to have ripple effects with our families and at work, as well as out into the larger global community.” —Chade-Meng Tan, Google pioneer and New York Times bestselling author of Joy on Demand and Search Inside Yourself
“In The Blind Spot Effect, Kelly Boys skillfully reveals profound insights into our own conditioning and lays out a path to positive change in our lives. A deeply helpful look at this underexplored topic.” —Sharon Salzberg, author of Real Happiness and Real Love
“For us to live in this world, we create a narrative that allows us to respond to the vagaries of our life and it is created early on. Most of us are unaware such a narrative exists. It is this narrative that often creates blind spots that negatively affect relationships and our ability to achieve, and is a source of unhappiness. Kelly Boys shows us our blind spots and by doing so allows us to truly see. When we truly see, everything changes for the better.” —James R. Doty, MD, founder and director of The Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education at Stanford University, and New York Times bestselling author of Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon’s Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart
“The Blind Spot Effect offers us an open window into understanding how to transform our everyday assumptions and beliefs that otherwise create blind spots within us, so that we may live in ever-increasing authenticity and connectedness with ourselves, others, and the world around us. Kelly Boys strikes a perfect balance between her warm and welcoming writing style, the information she offers us regarding the latest research and neuroscience on how our mind creates blind spots, and easy-to-follow exercises.” —Richard Miller, PhD, author of iRest Meditation: Restorative Practices for Health, Resiliency, and Well-Being and Yoga Nidra: A Meditative Practice for Deep Relaxation and Healing
“In very direct, clear, and practical terms that are grounded in neuroscience and psychology, author Kelly Boys shares insights from her many years of experience as an international mindfulness, emotional, and social intelligence teacher and coach. This book is an essential guide that no doubt will move readers down the sometimes difficult—but always fruitful—lifelong journey toward personal and professional growth and fulfillment.” —Richard Fernandez, PhD, CEO of Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute
“Blending cutting-edge cognitive research and creative mindfulness practices, Kelly Boys leads us in a lively discovery process through our blind spots toward the core of who we really are as open, loving awareness. The Blind Spot Effect is a spirited, fun, and illuminating read!” —John J. Prendergast, PhD, author of In Touch: How to Tune in to the Inner Guidance of Your Body and Trust Yourself, retired adjunct professor of psychology at the California Institute of Integral Studies