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Don't Take the Bait to Escalate

Conflict Is Inevitable. Being a Jerk Is Optional.

Jay Payleitner


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Turn conflict in your favor.

The Bible tells us that as far as it depends on us, we’re to be at peace with all people. But what happens when conflict is unavoidable?

Here’s some good news: There are sociologically sound ways to deescalate conflict and win negotiations without acting like a jerk.

Even better, you can actually emerge from conflicts with a stronger relationship with the person who was your adversary—whether it’s on the job, with your neighbor, in your marriage, or in a dark parking lot.

When it comes to your current (or next) conflict, remember that resolution starts with de-escalation. This book will show you:

• Four factors you must not overlook
• Three mistakes you must not make
• Fourteen conflict-resolution skills you can quickly master, and
• Thirteen easy-to-use tactics and tricks

When facing conflict, you don’t have to choose between running away and an ugly confrontation. This book offers you a winning game plan. You’ll handle conflicts with faith and confidence—and perhaps even a touch of eagerness. Loving your enemy starts here.

Salem Books, 9781684511877, 176pp.

Publication Date: March 15, 2022

About the Author

Jay Payleitner spent a decade in major market advertising on Michigan Avenue in Chicago writing and producing commercials for Corona, Kroger, and Midway Airlines (with Mike Ditka). He also led the creative team that named SunChips. Following God’s clear call, Jay spent two decades as a freelance radio producer working with Josh McDowell, Chuck Colson, TobyMac, Bible League, National Center for Fathering, and others. Most notably, Jay has written more than 25 books including What If God Wrote Your To-Do List? (Harvest House Publishers, 2018), 52 Things Kids Need from a Dad (Harvest House Publishers, 2010), and Don’t Take the Bait to Escalate (Salem Books, 2022), totaling more than a half-million copies sold. He has been a guest multiple times on The Harvest Show, Moody Radio, and Focus on the Family. Jay and his high school sweetheart, Rita, live in St. Charles, Illinois where they raised five awesome kids, loved on ten foster babies, and are cherishing grandparenthood. Track him down at