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Big Friendship (Digital Audiobook)

How We Keep Each Other Close

By Aminatou Sow, Ann Friedman, Aminatou Sow (Narrator), Ann Friedman (Narrator)

Publication Date: July 13, 2020

Other Editions of This Title:
Paperback (7/6/2021)
Hardcover (7/14/2020)
Compact Disc (7/14/2020)


A close friendship is one of the most influential and important relationships a human life can contain. Anyone will tell you that! But for all the rosy sentiments surrounding friendship, most people don’t talk much about what it really takes to stay close for the long haul.

Now two friends, Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman, tell the story of their equally messy and life-affirming Big Friendship in this honest and hilarious book that chronicles their first decade in one another’s lives. As the hosts of the hit podcast Call Your Girlfriend, they’ve become known for frank and intimate conversations. In this book, they bring that energy to their own friendship—its joys and its pitfalls.

Aminatou and Ann define Big Friendship as a strong, significant bond that transcends life phases, geographical locations, and emotional shifts. And they should know: the two have had moments of charmed bliss and deep frustration, of profound connection and gut-wrenching alienation. They have weathered life-threatening health scares, getting fired from their dream jobs, and one unfortunate Thanksgiving dinner eaten in a car in a parking lot in Rancho Cucamonga. Through interviews with friends and experts, they have come to understand that their struggles are not unique. And that the most important part of a Big Friendship is making the decision to invest in one another again and again.

An inspiring and entertaining testament to the power of society’s most underappreciated relationship, Big Friendship will invite you to think about how your own bonds are formed, challenged, and preserved. It is a call to value your friendships in all of their complexity. Actively choose them. And, sometimes, fight for them.

About the Author

Aminatou Sow is a writer, interviewer, and cultural commentator who facilitates conversations around the most important issues of our time. She cohosts the popular podcast Call Your Girlfriend with her friend, Ann Friedman. She is a frequent public speaker whose talks and interviews lead to candid conversations about female ambition, money, and power. In 2014, Aminatou was named one of Forbes 30 Under 30 in Tech. She is also the cofounder of Tech LadyMafia, an organization created to increase the visibility of women working in technology. Aminatou lives in Brooklyn. Visit her at or on social media @Aminatou.

Ann Friedman is a journalist, essayist, and media entrepreneur who loves talking to strangers and finding new ways to explain the world. She cohosts the popular podcast Call Your Girlfriend with her friend, Aminatou Sow. Her writing and reporting have appeared in New York magazine, the Los Angeles Times, The Gentlewoman, California Sunday, The New York Times, Elle, and The Guardian. Ann is a public speaker and consultant on the creative process and the future of media. Every Friday, she sends an email newsletter, The Ann Friedman Weekly, which has been praised by Fast Company and Wired magazine. Ann lives in Los Angeles. Visit her at or on social media @AnnFriedman.